K.O. to Frantz (and two incredible news)
Actualizado: 8 jul 2020
Sometimes it seems that everything is wrong and suddenly, everything is right again. April was a month of good news. Of two incredible news. And since I can't wait any longer to tell you...
1. I DEFEATED FRANTZ (AGAIN)
Most of you already know that on April 17, through a PET scan, I discovered that FRANTZ DISAPPEARED!!! How? I don't know, but the last tumor that was on the vena cava (below the heart) ceased to exist. Just like that, without further explanations or a fifth surgery, I was cured for the second time of pancreatic cancer and I again became part of the 5% of the survivors.
I think it was a medical miracle, because there is no other word that describes it better. After so much uncertainty, sadness and pain, God, the universe or some higher energy, returned me what I most yearned: my health. Why? I don't know either, but I will enjoy every second of the greatest gift I have: life.
In the fight against cancer, many well-meaning people are going to give you advice and tell you what they think will help you heal. However, if you are fighting against this disease or you are in a similar situation, I would tell you to trust your intuition and only do what you feel is right to cure yourself.
I received a lot of advice, I liked some of them and some did not, but what I can tell you is that I did everything that I thought could help me heal: operations, positive thinking, magic oils, nutrition, and I even went with a shaman. I had nothing to lose and much to gain.
I WENT WITH A SHAMAN AND THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED...
When we found out that Frantz had returned, my aunt Andrea texted me and told me that she wanted to invite me to see a shaman. Of course I imagined those who make shamanic rituals in Mexico City's main plaza and I thought it was funny, but since I was determined to try everything to heal myself, I told her I wanted to go. On March 10th my mother, Andrea, Mateo (my cousin) and me went to our first appointment with the shaman and I can only say: WOW WITH WHAT HE SAID.
Shortly before what would have been my fifth surgery I met Enrique, who was going to be my chest surgeon, and risking to look like a strange person, I asked him for a photo to present him to you:
(Left to right: Chan, Majo, Enrique)
That day Chan asked me for a new PET scan to confirm that only the vena cava tumor remained. I scheduled it for April 17 and before the study, I returned with Eugenio, the shaman, because I was the only one he asked to return.
"You're healed", he told me.
I did not really believe that I was 100% cured (I knew I was missing a thoracic operation), but since the previous time he had told me more things and pointed out the parts of my body where the tumors were, I asked him: "¿And what about the tumor here? (I pointed under my heart) Will I be okay?".
Eugenio made a face like he did not know what I was talking about and he answered: "Yes, you will be fine".
On April 17 I had the PET and then I went radioactive to my cousin Lucy's birthday cake. Paco himself saw my results and you can imagine my surprise when he told me they were clean (to this day I still can't describe that feeling, but it is a mix of incredulity and extreme happiness), and while deciphering how to react I just said: "Alfredo, come heeere" ... and the rest is history.
For the official score against Frantz to be:
Majo - 2 | Cancer - 0
... there were 3 very important factors:
1) FAMILY, FRIENDS AND PARTNER. Alfredo, my family and the friends who accompanied me on all the ups and downs of my way back to total healing, are the ones who helped me win this battle, they celebrated with me the good news and supported me in the bad, they cheered me up, didn't let me lose my strength and also, they gave me the opportunity to treat me with the best doctors and in an excellent hospital (thanks dad, mom, grandpa Alejandro and Nena!). You probably already know, but for me, loyalty is one of the most important characteristics of a person and because of this, they all have an irrevocable place in my heart.
2) PLANS, PLANS AND MORE PLANS. As you know, I have many dreams and thanks to Frantz, I have started to fulfill each one of them. Viktor Frankl in his book Man's Search For Meaning said that "he who has a why to live can bear almost any how" citing Nietzsche. And here is where the positive attitude makes sense. While it is true that it's impossible to be happy all the time, because in this adventure there are too many bitter pills, having plans and reasons to live is what helps us to achieve it.
3) MEDICAL TEAM. It is undeniable that with a good medical team our chances of survival increase. Because of the good luck I have of being niece of the best doctors in the world, Paco Moreno and Lucy Laporta, the love of my favorite surgeon, Carlos Chan, and the professionalism of the medical staff of the ABC de Observatorio hospital, I always knew that I was in good hands and that the only thing I had to do was to recover.
In addition to the magical hands of my surgeon, I don't know what else healed me. I don't know if it was destiny, good luck, magic oils, nutrition, the shaman, the will of the universe, a medical error or a combination of everything, but the truth is that today there is no sign of Frantz, I am completely healthy and ready to enjoy how beautiful life is getting.
And as I know you want to know (or imagine) the second incredible news...
2. I'M MARRYING THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!!!
Those who read my post "Alfredo" know that we know each other since preteens and that our love story began more than 10 years ago. I have always thought that Alfredo and I have a special relationship, because we met since we were very young and since then we have loved each other. We have grown together, lived different experiences and gone through good and bad times that have taught us to be a great couple. Also, in our relationship there is genuine love and I, personally, feel the luckiest woman in the world to be with someone like him.
Many people asked us: "You've been dating X years, don't you get bored?" And the truth is that no, on the contrary, we like being together, we laugh, tease each other and we are boyfriends (weeell, future spouses) and best friends at the same time. I think that says a lot about a relationship.
As I told you in "Alfredo", since the age of 15 we know that we want to get married and on April 27, after 9 years of being boyfriends, Alfredo asked me to marry him!
Here I tell you in detail how was the most beautiful proposal in the world (obviously for me it will always be the most beautiful):
The "marriage operation" began in November when Alfredo told me that Schiavón, a friend of ours, had found some cheap flights to Tulum and that they had already bought them for June. Obviously I didn't suspect that this trip was an excuse for the proposal.
In December, when I was on my victory trip, Berrones and Schiavón, two of his best friends, accompanied him in the search of the ring. They went to several jewelry stores, but since they didn't find what Alfredo was looking for and my next husband is very thoughtful, he went with a jeweler to do it.
In February I entered the coolest and most millennial job in the world, and as the dates we had for Tulum crossed with one of the most important events of Cisco (Cisco Live), we had to change our flights.
But in the end everything settles and each time I'm more surprised at how true this is.
We decided to move the trip at the end of April, a week before of what would've been my fifth surgery and one month after the fourth in which the peritoneal metastases were removed, so that I would have time to recover and use the trip to relax before the last operation. But as you know, a few days before we left, they gave me the news of my miracle and Tulum stopped being a relaxation trip to become a celebration trip. And there was much to celebrate!
Alfredo, Ximena, Berrones, Schiavón and I really enjoyed the trip. We ate delicious food, we visited beautiful hotels and they all handed the situation very well because I never suspected anything.
Thank you Mau and Fer for planning such a cool itinerary!
On Friday, April 27 was the proposal. We spent most of the day at the Azulik hotel and in the afternoon they told me that Schiavón had organized a meal with a chef at Aldea Canzul and that we should groom ourselves.
They gave us a tour around the houses and then told us to go up to the terrace for the meal. Only Alfredo and I went up, but it didn't seem strange to me that the others didn't go up because I assumed they were talking or seeing something else in the house where we stayed (Chukum), so I told Alfredo that we should take a picture while we wait for the others.
This is the picture we took while "we were waiting" for the others to join us, hahaha.
As I did not suspect anything, I was very calm, but Alfredo was very nervous because the night before he had given the ring to Schiavón to hide it and he told him he had put it behind a cushion, but you can imagine Alfredo's nerves when he saw that there was not one, not two, not three, but several cushions.
In the end he found the ring and asked me: "Do you want to marry me?"
Obviously I said yeeees! And we are already starting to plan the wedding for next year.
¡@aldeacanzul uploaded a photo of my proposal! Really, if you go to Tulum I highly recommend staying in these villas. They are beaaautiful.
Despite all the bad things, many good things have also happened. I am the cousin of your friend's friend who had cancer and suddenly was cured, without more explanations than destiny and who has remained healthy since then. My story has a Disney story ending and I feel immensely happy and excited for what is coming.
Rest assured that I will continue to tell you things because I am testimony that there is life after cancer.
Majo >> follow me on @goodbyefrantz